When Worry Hurts: A Parent's Guide to Child Panic, Phobias, and Stomach Anxiety

Parent Coaching Phrases to Empower

Shift your language from reassuring comfort to courage coaching

Everyday Strategies: Building Courage and Resilience

Introduce Graded Exposure: Your Child's "Brave Ladder"

The most powerful tool against anxiety is exposure, which means safely and gradually facing fears. You can do this at home by helping your child create a "Brave Ladder" (or Fear Ladder).

1. Identify the Goal: (e.g., Attend the birthday party.)
2. Break it Down: List all the steps from easiest (1) to hardest (10).

• Example for Social Anxiety: (1) Wave at the host from the car. (5) Stand inside the door for 5 minutes. (10) Play a game for 30 minutes.

1. Practice: Start at step 1. Praise the effort, not just the outcome. Only move to the next step when the current one feels easy.

When to Get Professional Help (Red Flags)

Normal worry helps kids prepare. Anxiety is when the worry prevents them from participating in life.

Seek professional help when you see these "Red Flags":

• Impact on School: Anxiety leads to frequent school refusal, inability to attend classes, or major drops in grades.
• Safety/Function: Panic attacks are happening weekly, or the fear limits their life severely (e.g., they cannot sleep alone, eat outside the home, or use public transport).
• Duration: The intense worry, phobia, or recurring nausea has lasted for six months or more and isn't improving with your support.
• Self-Harm/Escape: The child talks about wanting to run away, self-harm, or uses food, gaming, or substances to manage the anxiety.

Clinician Insight:

Ms.Grace (Consultant Psychologist, ReACH): "Parents often ask, 'Isn't this just a phase?' My guidance is: Look at the limitation, not the feeling. If anxiety has severely limited your child's world, they avoid friends, can't handle a simple challenge, or their stomach pain is dictating the family schedule, it is no longer a phase. We have evidence-based tools, like CBT, that are highly effective, but they work best when we start early."

What Assessment and Treatment Look Like

The Assessment Process

• Who: A Child Psychiatrist or Clinical Psychologist.
• What to Expect: A few sessions focused on gathering a detailed history. The specialist will talk with the child (using child-friendly methods), the parents, and sometimes the school, to understand triggers and rule out medical or other mental health causes.

The Gold Standard Treatment

The most effective, evidence-based treatment for childhood anxiety and phobias is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), specifically with a focus on Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP).

• CBT/ERP Explained: CBT helps your child understand that their worried thoughts are often exaggerated and not facts. ERP is the safe, systematic, and gradual practice of facing their fears (using the Brave Ladder) without relying on safety behaviors (like you staying home with them).
• Parent's Role: You are the co-therapist! Treatment success relies on parents learning how to coach courage and support the exposure work at home.
• Duration: Significant progress often occurs within 8 to 20 consistent sessions.

Summary and Next Step

You have the power to help your child manage panic, phobias, and worry-fuelled nausea. Start by validating their feelings while coaching their courage using breathing, grounding, and the Brave Ladder. If anxiety is shrinking your child's world, it is time for professional help. Early, targeted care is the fastest path back to a life of freedom and capability.

Ready to Get Expert Help from ReACH?

ReACH Psychiatry in Bangalore provides specialized assessment and evidence-based CBT/ERP treatment for childhood anxiety disorders.

What to Expect at First Contact: Our care coordinator will ask about your child's age and main concerns to ensure you are matched with the right child specialist (Psychiatrist or Clinical Psychologist) for an initial assessment.

Take the Next Step: Book a Consultation

Call: 080-40988156